derogatory terms

I had a wonderful experience at the SDLC this past week. One of the things that I am inspired to do, is stand up to people who use derogatory terms and I ask you to do the same. Many people feel as though, " Who are you to tell me what I can and cannot say?". But I feel like, " Who am I not to tell you how I feel when the words that you are using are making me uncomfortable?" I have learned that when people use the terms that's so gay, wassup my nigga, hey bitch, etc. they are being rude and not taking into consideration the amount of pain people feel when they hear these words. Also, just because someone is of a particular race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, age, etc., I do not think it's acceptable for "just that group" to use degrading words as friendly gestures. It's like using the words that have oppressed you as if they are cool and the only things you have in common. The world has a long way to go, and by me speaking out when I hear these things being said, I will start a cycle that will encourage others to do the same. I respect every one's opinions, which is why I am not asking anyone to agree with what I am saying. However, I am asking you to be open minded and take my suggestion into consideration. So, this is just one of the many things that I wanted to share with everyone about my experience at SDLC. It has taught me a lot and allowed to gain the strength to speak out for those who are unable to speak up for themselves.